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How do I Pray Correctly?

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How do I Pray Correctly?

[Posted March 28, 2025]
Mike, I am struggling with knowing what the right way to pray is.
While in Babylon, I learned a lot about praying in tongues, declarations in prayer, and the like. Now, I feel some form of paralysis where prayer is concerned, because I am not sure if I am praying correctly.
Sometimes, I feel so overwhelmed by a situation that all I can do is cry out for God’s mercy, but I find myself wondering if that is enough.
I look at the challenges my family is facing and I wonder if I prayed enough or prayed correctly.
This is a huge struggle for me and I desire to please the Lord in this area of my life. So, how do I know that I have prayed correctly or have prayed enough? How do I find peace in that I have petitioned the Lord correctly?
Your struggling sister,
Thank you for asking about how we ought to pray to our heavenly Father.
The disciples had this same question, and if we follow the answer Christ gave them, then we can rest assured our prayers are being answered.
Here is Luke’s account of that petition from the disciples:

Luk 11:1  And it came to pass, that, as he was praying in a certain place, when he ceased, one of his disciples said unto him, Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples.
Luk 11:2  And he said unto them, When ye pray, say, Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth.
Luk 11:3  Give us day by day our daily bread.
Luk 11:4  And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil.

This is not a prayer, rather it is Christ’s instructions to His disciples on how they ought to pray. Therefore this is an outline of how we ought to approach our heavenly Father. Every prayer we pray should always include the words… “Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth”. If we are granted the faith to truly believe that God is “working all things after the counsel of His own will” then we will be forced to acknowledge that whatever occurs in our lives day by day is the Lord’s answer to our prayer to that moment.

That does not mean that if I ask the Lord to heal Sandi and she is not immediately healed that therefore I should stop importuning our loving heavenly Father for her timely healing. That is the very point of the parable of the importunate widow: 
Luk 18:1  And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint;
Luk 18:2  Saying, There was in a city a judge, which feared not God, neither regarded man:
Luk 18:3  And there was a widow in that city; and she came unto him, saying, Avenge me of mine adversary.
Luk 18:4  And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, Though I fear not God, nor regard man;
Luk 18:5  Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.
Luk 18:6  And the Lord said, Hear what the unjust judge saith.
Luk 18:7  And shall not God avenge his own elect, which cry day and night unto him, though he bear long with them?
Luk 18:8  I tell you that he will avenge them speedily. Nevertheless when the Son of man cometh, shall he find faith on the earth?
If all of our prayers were immediately answered to our own liking, then we would be nothing more than spoiled “carnal… babes in Christ” and not fit to be kings and priest with Christ in His kingdom, which kingdom is within us at this time (Luk 17:20-21) and will rule outwardly with a rod of iron for a thousand years when it is preordained to do so:
Rev 11:15  And the seventh angel sounded; and there were great voices in heaven, saying, The kingdoms of this world are become the kingdoms of our Lord, and of his Christ; and he shall reign for ever and ever. 
The first thing Christ tells us we  ought always do is to acknowledge that He is indeed the ‘hallowed’ Father of our hearts and minds, the Father of our very thoughts. Our hearts and minds are the scriptural definition of “the heavens themselves”, which have been and are being cleansed by the sacrifice of Christ:
Heb 9:19  For when Moses had spoken every precept to all the people according to the law, he took the blood of calves and of goats, with water, and scarlet wool, and hyssop, and sprinkled both the book, and all the people,
Heb 9:20  Saying, This is the blood of the testament which God hath enjoined unto you.
Heb 9:21  Moreover he sprinkled with blood both the tabernacle, and all the vessels of the ministry.
Heb 9:22  And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission.
Heb 9:23  It was therefore necessary that the patterns of things in the heavens should be purified with these; but the heavenly things themselves [our hearts and our minds] with better sacrifices than these.
Heb 9:24  For Christ is not entered into the holy places made with hands, which are the figures of the true; but into heaven itself [into us], now to appear in the presence of God for us: 
 

When we begin our prayers with the words… ‘Our Father which art in heaven’ we are acknowledging that He dwells within us and that He is working all things after the counsel of His own will, as we are informed in: 

Eph 1:9  Having made known unto us the mystery of his will, according to his good pleasure which he hath purposed in himself:
Eph 1:10  That in the dispensation of the fulness of times he might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth; even in him:
Eph 1:11  In whom also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestinated according to the purpose of him who worketh all things after the counsel of his own will: 
 

If we acknowledge God as our heavenly Father and we know that ‘heaven’ is the realm of the spirit in which we dwell with Christ and His Father, then we will indeed ‘hallow’ His name. ‘Hallowed’ is the verb form of ‘holy’ and has the same Greek root which is the Greek adjective ‘hagios‘ as in ‘hagios pneuma‘, translated as ‘holy (G40, ‘hagios’, “most holy thing”) spirit’ (G4151, ‘pneuma’).

‘Hallowed’ is translated from the Greek verb ‘hagiazo‘, G37, defined as ‘to make holy’. If we ‘make holy’ the name of our heavenly Father, then we will believe what He tells us. 

This so-called ‘Lord’s prayer’ is but an outline prayer, and it is not the sum of the Lord’s words on how we are to pray. We are also admonished that we are to “bring to Him the sacrifice of thanksgiving”: 

Psa 107:22  And let them sacrifice the sacrifices of thanksgiving, and declare his works with rejoicing. 
Paul gives us the same admonition adding that we should not be worrying about  what the future holds
Php 4:6  Don’t worry about anything. But pray and ask God for everything you needAnd when you pray, always give thanks. (ERV)

Here we have the three things that will give us complete confidence that we are approaching our Lord with proper reverence and that He is in the process of giving us the thing that is best for us. If we always include the phrase, 1) ‘Thy will be done‘; 2) If we always express our gratitude for all He is doing… that He has seen fit to reveal Himself to us, and 3) We believe that He is “working all things after the counsel of His own will” (Eph 1:11).

If indeed we are granted the faith to believe that the Lord is “working all things after the counsel of His own will”, then ‘all things’ will include the manner in which His is answering our prayers.
We can and we should remain importunate, all the while knowing that the Lord is answering us after the counsel of His own will and for our good as we are assured:
Rom 8:28  And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose
Sandi and I are well acquainted with all the trials of rearing five children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. We can identify with you as you have financial struggles, family issues and struggles and as you well know, health issues and struggles. All along we cry out to the Lord for His mercies and after 78 years He has never let us down, even though it felt like He had done so at times, He never did.
He is doing the same for you. He is closer than a brother and will never fail you.

Prayer is worship. When we humble ourselves and pray to the Lord our petitions are our worship of Him. Paul tells us:

1Th 5:16  Rejoice evermore.
1Th 5:17  Pray without ceasing.
1Th 5:18  In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

When we live a life that rejoices in knowing that God is working every detail of our lives “after the counsel of His own will” (Eph 1:11), and we are giving Him thanks in every thing He s doing, that is the very meaning of “pray without ceasing”. Please do not allow a self-righteous spirit to overcome you and have you to believe that you must be on your knees verbalizing prayers to God a certain number of hours per day or week. When we rejoice in knowing the Lord is working all things, even our trials, after the counsel of His own will, and we are grateful for all He is doing for our good, then we are ‘praying without ceasing”.

I pray this will help you to know better how to pray to our loving heavenly Father.

Your brother who struggles with you, Mike

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